{"product_id":"choosing-us-marriage-and-mutual-flourishing-in-a-world-of-difference-hardcover","title":"Choosing Us: Marriage and Mutual Flourishing in a World of Difference - Hardcover","description":"\u003cp\u003eby \u003cb\u003eGail Song Bantum\u003c\/b\u003e (Author), \u003cb\u003eBrian Bantum\u003c\/b\u003e (Author)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFor years, people have asked Gail Song Bantum and Brian Bantum to reveal the secret to their marriage as a multiracial Christian couple, each with a high-profile ministry calling. This book reveals the lessons, mistakes, and principles that have helped the Bantums navigate race, family history, and gender dynamics in their twenty-plus years of marriage, while inspiring readers to pursue mutual flourishing in their marriages and relationships.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMarriage is about more than constant bliss or unending sacrifice, say the Bantums. It's about exploring your own story, seeing the other for who they are (even as they change), and being flexible in discovering how those differences and stories come alive in new ways when joined together. It's the discovery of life in the gaps and the mysteries that emerge when we live in mutuality, believing that fullness is possible for each.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eChoosing Us\u003c\/i\u003e reflects the realities and demands of modern marriage and respects the callings and ambitions of both partners. It shows that marriage is about choosing the other's flourishing on a daily basis, amid differences and even systemic obstacles, to build a relationship that thrives and reflects the kingdom of God.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ch3\u003eBack Jacket\u003c\/h3\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eFor Couples Committed to Building Progressive, Equitable Relationships\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAs a multiracial Christian couple, each with a unique ministry calling, Gail Song Bantum and Brian Bantum have learned to navigate race, family history, and gender dynamics in their twenty-plus years of marriage. In \u003ci\u003eChoosing Us\u003c\/i\u003e, they\u003ci\u003e \u003c\/i\u003ereveal the lessons, mistakes, and secrets of their marriage to inspire readers to pursue mutual flourishing in their own marriages and relationships.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"\u003ci\u003eChoosing Us\u003c\/i\u003e is the long-awaited resource for couples committed to building progressive, equitable relationships where both partners have highly demanding careers. It is not a how-to guide to replicating Gail and Brian's relationship. It is a source of wisdom for creating your own.\"\u003cbr\u003e--\u003cb\u003eChanequa Walker-Barnes\u003c\/b\u003e, clinical psychologist and author of \u003ci\u003eI Bring the Voices of My People\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"While there are countless marriage books, few focus on cultivating egalitarian unions where couples grow together and individually fulfill their created purpose. \u003ci\u003eChoosing Us\u003c\/i\u003e achieves this and equips readers to love selflessly, even when it's counterintuitive and inconvenient. This book will bless your marriage and empower you to love your partner more authentically.\"\u003cbr\u003e--\u003cb\u003eDominique DuBois Gilliard\u003c\/b\u003e, author of \u003ci\u003eSubversive Witness\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eRethinking Incarceration\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"I'm so grateful to Gail and Brian for sharing their story with us. In these honest pages about marriage, choice, family, and self-discovery, you'll find room for your own stories. This book is a gift for those seeking to create flourishing marriages of mutuality.\"\u003cbr\u003e--\u003cb\u003eSarah Bessey\u003c\/b\u003e, author of \u003ci\u003eJesus Feminist \u003c\/i\u003eand editor of the \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestseller \u003ci\u003eA Rhythm of Prayer\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\"Tender, true, and practical, \u003ci\u003eChoosing Us \u003c\/i\u003eis a gift. I'm so grateful to Gail and Brian for opening their stories and hearts and offering this abundance of wisdom hard-won through their many years of marriage.\"\u003cbr\u003e--\u003cb\u003eJeff Chu\u003c\/b\u003e, cocurator, Evolving Faith; author of \u003ci\u003eDoes Jesus Really Love Me? A Gay Christian's Pilgrimage in Search of God in America\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\"Do yourself and your marriage a favor. Read this book.\"\u003cbr\u003e--\u003cb\u003eKathy Khang\u003c\/b\u003e, author of \u003ci\u003eRaise Your Voice: Why We Stay Silent and How to Speak Up\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ch3\u003eAuthor Biography\u003c\/h3\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eGail Song Bantum\u003c\/b\u003e is lead pastor at Quest Church and has created four mentoring groups nationally for women of color leaders. A nationally known speaker on topics of justice, leadership, and mentoring, she has spoken at Why Christian?, Evolving Faith, Christian Community Development Association, and the Proctor Children's Defense Fund Conference, among others.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBrian Bantum\u003c\/b\u003e (PhD, Duke University) writes and speaks on the intersections of identity, race, and gender. He is the Neal F. and Ila A. Fisher Professor of Theology at Garrett-Evangelical Theological Seminary, a contributing editor for the \u003ci\u003eChristian Century\u003c\/i\u003e, and the author of \u003ci\u003eThe Death of Race: Building a New Christianity in a Racial World\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eRedeeming Mulatto: A Theology of Christian Hybridity\u003c\/i\u003e.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Bantums have three children and live in Seattle, Washington.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNumber of Pages:\u003c\/strong\u003e 160\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDimensions:\u003c\/strong\u003e 0.79 x 8.58 x 5.75 IN\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublication Date:\u003c\/strong\u003e March 01, 2022\u003c\/div\u003e","brand":"Books by splitShops","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":51767340564768,"sku":"9781587435379","price":21.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0974\/9764\/5344\/files\/3c53a78f3a8175ca568d232718ba80c6.webp?v=1780309366","url":"https:\/\/ebocreations.com\/products\/choosing-us-marriage-and-mutual-flourishing-in-a-world-of-difference-hardcover","provider":"The E-Book Oasis LLC","version":"1.0","type":"link"}