{"product_id":"emotional-bullshit-the-hidden-plague-that-is-threatening-to-destroy-your-relationships-and-how-to-s-top-it-paperback","title":"Emotional Bullshit: The Hidden Plague That Is Threatening to Destroy Your Relationships-And How to S Top It - Paperback","description":"\u003cp\u003eby \u003cb\u003eCarl Alasko\u003c\/b\u003e (Author)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eAn invisible disease is affecting every aspect of your life\u003c\/b\u003e. Insidious and creeping, it shapes you everyday - from the bedroom to the boardroom, from your shopping splurge, to the extra helping at your holiday dinner, to the dangerous liaison at work. It's called \u003cb\u003eemotional bullshit, and it's encroaching on your happiness.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn \u003ci\u003eEmotional Bullshit: The Hidden Plague That Is Threatening to Destroy Your Relationships - AND HOW TO STOP IT \u003c\/i\u003e, Carl Alasko, Ph.D. sheds light on the stealth disease of Emotional BS: that is, the \u003cb\u003eToxic Trio of denial, delusion and blame \u003c\/b\u003e that we fall back on when faced with difficult situations. These three dynamics work together to distort and manipulate truth, create a delusional reality, and shift blame when things fall apart. With the toxic trio in action, it's all but impossible to get at the heart of the problem. T\u003cb\u003ehe result, however, is obvious - no one can achieve happiness and fulfillment.\u003c\/b\u003e And when used in the world of business, Emotional BS can lead to financial ruin.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn his over twenty years working with individuals, couples and families as a psychotherapist, Dr. Alasko has come to recognize the same problem underlying all his patients' unhappiness. When confronted with an unpleasant or inconvenient reality, they fall prey to the \u003cb\u003eTOXIC TRIO: \u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eDENIAL: \u003c\/b\u003e \u003ci\u003e\"My girlfriend enjoys a 'good time' at parties, sure. But she doesn't have a drinking problem.\" \u003c\/i\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eDecoded: \u003c\/b\u003e There is no problem. Everything is okay. You're exaggerating\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eSee: \u003c\/b\u003e the drinker, the overweight, the wallet full of maxed-out credit cards (pg 12)\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eDELUSION: \u003c\/b\u003e \u003ci\u003e\"Working late isn't a problem. My family will understand when I get that big promotion.\"\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eDecoded: \u003c\/b\u003e I'll tell you what's true. Don't believe what you see - believe me.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eSee: \u003c\/b\u003e the demanding boss, the neglected partner, the alienated friend (pgs 63, 138)\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eBLAME: \u003c\/b\u003e \u003ci\u003e\"She knew I hated sloppiness when she married me. Why can't she pick up after herself?\"\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eDecoded: \u003c\/b\u003eYou're the problem. I was forced to do it; I had no choice.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eSee: \u003c\/b\u003e the clean freak, sub-prime mortgages, Napoleon Bonaparte (pgs 45, 84)\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhen the Toxic Trio works together, we become stuck in a cycle of emotional BS, preventing us from moving on or learning from our mistakes.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eEmotional bullshit's pervasiveness in society can be found everywhere\u003c\/b\u003e, from rising divorce rates, weight gain, and debt, to angry outbursts at work, loss of control over our children, and a lack of fulfillment in our lives. The solution is deceptively simple: You focus on your Core Needs, which is any behavior that advances your long-term best interest, and ask yourself the Master Question--\u003ci\u003e\"What do I need from this situation?\"\u003c\/i\u003e. \u003cb\u003eHonestly addressing the larger issue - not just in the short term - cuts the BS in every relationship: between friends, co-workers, couples, in parenting and especially in business.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFrank, concise and unapologetic, EMOTIONAL BULLSHIT sheds light on this hidden plague, and provides concrete advice to keep it from infiltrating your relationships. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003ch3\u003eAuthor Biography\u003c\/h3\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eCarl Alasko, Ph.D.\u003c\/b\u003e has been a practicing psychotherapist specializing in couples and families for over twenty years. For the past thirteen years he has written a weekly advice column, \"On Relationships\", for the \u003ci\u003eMonterey County Herald\u003c\/i\u003e, which has consistently been one of the Herald's most popular columns. He has also given numerous lectures on the topic of healthy relationships and has hosted a popular advice radio show. Married and the father of four children, he lives in Monterey, California.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNumber of Pages:\u003c\/strong\u003e 272\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDimensions:\u003c\/strong\u003e 0.8 x 8.5 x 5.6 IN\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublication Date:\u003c\/strong\u003e January 01, 2009\u003c\/div\u003e","brand":"Books by splitShops","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":51749639749920,"sku":"9781585426669","price":27.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0974\/9764\/5344\/files\/2e68e5765f47d7a8049965bde9f3a2af.webp?v=1779935485","url":"https:\/\/ebocreations.com\/products\/emotional-bullshit-the-hidden-plague-that-is-threatening-to-destroy-your-relationships-and-how-to-s-top-it-paperback","provider":"The E-Book Oasis LLC","version":"1.0","type":"link"}