{"product_id":"how-to-say-no-to-the-one-you-love-hardcover","title":"How to Say No to the One You Love - Hardcover","description":"\u003cp\u003eby \u003cb\u003ePeter Schellenbaum\u003c\/b\u003e (Author), \u003cb\u003ePeter Shellenbaum\u003c\/b\u003e (Author), \u003cb\u003eBoris Matthews\u003c\/b\u003e (Translator)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThere is a need to learn how to say no in a way that strengthens love rather than destroys it. Analyst Peter Schellenbaum contends that if partners do not learn to say no in a lover relationship, they will soon forget how to say yes, which soon creates an inability to communicate with one another.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eMaintaining one's identity while becoming involved in the emotional life of another has become a particular challenge for modern couples. Schellenbaum explores the problem of boundaries within intimacy in both successful and unsuccessful relationships.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFrom a Jungian point of view, he offers insight into delimitation and surrender in the erotic relationship. The author marks the progress of love relationships from the beginning, with all the enthusiasms and unbounded hopes, through to the shrinking back to more realistic everyday dimensions.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHe explores three developmental stages in emotional relationships: Fusion, where the distinction between the two personalities is blurred; Projection, where the unconscious parts of oneself are erroneously cast onto the other, thereby separating individuals from each other and their surrounding; and mutual reflection of the guiding image, wherein the beloved becomes a guiding image reflecting previously unknown possibilities for loving.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eTable of Contents\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePart I: The Covert No Destroys Love\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDoes Saying No Belong in Love?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Tragedy of the Happy Couple\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eMerging and Resisting\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e The Self-Destruction of the Stronger Partner\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePursuit and Flight without Love\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHeterosexuals' Homosexual Fantasies\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePart II: The Overt No in Love\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDelimitation\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHate and Love\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eLove Relationships without Sexual Intimacy\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBecoming More Feminine, Even as a Man\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePart Ill: Must One Choose Between I and Thou?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe No of Separation and Divorce\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSurrender and Discovery of Self in Sexuality\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThou Art an Image of my Secret Life\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Attitude of Eros\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNumber of Pages:\u003c\/strong\u003e 144\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDimensions:\u003c\/strong\u003e 0.5 x 9 x 6 IN\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublication Date:\u003c\/strong\u003e November 14, 2013\u003c\/div\u003e","brand":"Books by splitShops","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":51792847536416,"sku":"9780933029255","price":60.48,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0974\/9764\/5344\/files\/9db17ae0271bafe1ca15c4afb172d679.webp?v=1780709375","url":"https:\/\/ebocreations.com\/products\/how-to-say-no-to-the-one-you-love-hardcover","provider":"The E-Book Oasis LLC","version":"1.0","type":"link"}