{"product_id":"the-forgiveness-tour-how-to-find-the-perfect-apology-hardcover","title":"The Forgiveness Tour: How to Find the Perfect Apology - Hardcover","description":"\u003cp\u003eby \u003cb\u003eSusan Shapiro\u003c\/b\u003e (Author)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eHow Apologies Can Help You Move Forward With Your Life\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \"To err is human; to forgive divine.\" But what if the person who hurt you most refuses to apologize or express any regret? \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e That's the question haunting Manhattan journalist Susan Shapiro when her trusted advisor of fifteen years repeatedly lies to her. Stunned by the betrayal, she can barely eat or sleep. She's always seen herself as big-hearted and benevolent, someone who will forgive anyone anything - as long as they're remorseful. Yet the addiction specialist who helped her quit smoking, drinking and drugs after decades of self-destruction won't explain - or stop - his ongoing deceit, leaving her blindsided. Her crisis management strategy is becoming her crisis. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e To protect her sanity and sobriety, Shapiro ends their relationship and vows they'll never speak again. Yet ghosting him doesn't end her distress. She has screaming arguments with him in her mind, relives their fallout in panicked nightmares and even lights a candle, chanting a secret Yiddish curse to exact revenge. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e In her entrancing, heartfelt new memoir \u003ci\u003eThe Forgiveness Tour: How to Find the Perfect Apology\u003c\/i\u003e, Shapiro wrestles with how to exonerate someone who can't cough up a measly \"my bad\" or mumble \"mea culpa.\" Seeking wisdom, she explores the billion-dollar Forgiveness Industry touting the personal benefits of absolution, where the only choice on every channel is: radical forgiveness. She fears it's all bullshit. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Desperate for enlightenment, she surveys her old rabbis, as well as religious leaders from every denomination. Unable to reconcile all the confusing abstractions, she embarks on a cross country journey where she interviews people who suffered unforgivable wrongs that were never atoned: victims of genocides, sexual assault, infidelity, cruelty and racism. A Holocaust survivor in D.C. admits he's thrived from spite. A Michigan man meets with the drunk driver who killed his wife and children. A daughter in Seattle grapples with her mother - who stayed married to the father who raped her. Knowing their estrangement isn't her fault, a Florida mom spends eight years apologizing to her son anyway -with surprising results. Does love mean forever having to say you're sorry? \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Critics praised Shapiro's previous memoir \u003ci\u003eLighting Up: How I Stopped Smoking, Drinking and Everything Else I Loved in Life Except Sex\u003c\/i\u003e as fiercely honest, fascinating, funny and \"a mind-bendingly good read.\" Now the bestselling author and popular writing professor returns with a darker, wiser follow up, addressing the universal enigma of blind forgiving. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Shapiro's brilliant new gurus sooth her broken psyche and answer her burning mystery: How can you forgive someone without an apology? Does she? Should you?\u003ch3\u003eAuthor Biography\u003c\/h3\u003e\u003cp\u003eSusan Shapiro, an award-winning writing professor, freelances for \u003ci\u003eThe New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, New York Magazine, The Washington Post, The Los Angeles Times, Newsweek, Salon, Tablet, The Forward, Elle, Marie Claire, Oprah, Wired \u003c\/i\u003eand \u003ci\u003eThe New Yorker \u003c\/i\u003e\u003ci\u003e online. \u003c\/i\u003eShe's the national bestselling author\/coauthor of 13 books her family hates, including \u003ci\u003eUnhooked\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eFive Men Who Broke My Heart, Lighting Up, The Bosnia List \u003c\/i\u003eand \u003ci\u003eThe Byline Bible. \u003c\/i\u003eShe and her scriptwriter husband, a New York University professor, live in Greenwich Village, where she teaches her popular \"instant gratification takes too long\" classes at The New School, NYU, Columbia University, and private online classes. Follow her on Twitter @susanshapironet and Instagram @Profsue123.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNumber of Pages:\u003c\/strong\u003e 264\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDimensions:\u003c\/strong\u003e 1.1 x 8.4 x 5.7 IN\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublication Date:\u003c\/strong\u003e January 12, 2021\u003c\/div\u003e","brand":"Books by splitShops","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":51768127521056,"sku":"9781510762718","price":22.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0974\/9764\/5344\/files\/447b2fba840ebe1f9519b09e5d531da1.webp?v=1780325323","url":"https:\/\/ebocreations.com\/products\/the-forgiveness-tour-how-to-find-the-perfect-apology-hardcover","provider":"The E-Book Oasis LLC","version":"1.0","type":"link"}