{"product_id":"the-normal-one-life-with-a-difficult-or-damaged-sibling-paperback","title":"The Normal One: Life with a Difficult or Damaged Sibling - Paperback","description":"\u003cp\u003eby \u003cb\u003eJeanne Safer\u003c\/b\u003e (Author)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhat is it like to grow up with a sibling who is difficult or damaged? \u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eFew bonds in our lives are as psychologically and emotionally significant as the ones we share with our sisters and brothers, although little has been written about this formative relationship. In this first-of-its-kind book, psychotherapist Jeanne Safer takes us into the hidden world of problem siblings and explores the far-reaching effects on the lives of those who are considered the \"normal ones.\" \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eDrawing on more than sixty interviews with normal, or intact, siblings, Safer explores the daunting challenges they face, and probes the complex feelings that can strain families and damage lives. A \"normal\" sibling herself, Safer chronicles her own life-shaping experiences with her troubled brother. She examines the double-edged reality of normal ones: how they both compensate for their siblings' abnormality and feel guilty for their own health and success. With both wisdom and empathy, she delineates the \"Caliban Syndrome,\" a set of personality traits characteristic of higher-functioning siblings: premature maturity, compulsion to achieve, survivor guilt, and fear of contagion. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eEssential reading for normal ones and those who love them, this landmark work offers readers insight, compassion, and tools to help resolve childhood pain. It is a profound and eye-opening examination of a subject that has too long been shrouded in darkness.\u003ch3\u003eFront Jacket\u003c\/h3\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhat is it like to grow up with a sibling who is difficult or damaged? \u003cbr\u003eFew bonds in our lives are as psychologically and emotionally significant as the ones we share with our sisters and brothers, although little has been written about this formative relationship. In this first-of-its-kind book, psychotherapist Jeanne Safer takes us into the hidden world of problem siblings and explores the far-reaching effects on the lives of those who are considered the \"normal ones.\" \u003cbr\u003eDrawing on more than sixty interviews with normal, or intact, siblings, Safer explores the daunting challenges they face, and probes the complex feelings that can strain families and damage lives. A \"normal\" sibling herself, Safer chronicles her own life-shaping experiences with her troubled brother. She examines the double-edged reality of normal ones: how they both compensate for their siblings' abnormality and feel guilty for their own health and success. With both wisdom and empathy, she delineates the \"Caliban Syndrome,\" a set of personality traits characteristic of higher-functioning siblings: premature maturity, compulsion to achieve, survivor guilt, and fear of contagion. \u003cbr\u003eEssential reading for normal ones and those who love them, this landmark work offers readers insight, compassion, and tools to help resolve childhood pain. It is a profound and eye-opening examination of a subject that has too long been shrouded in darkness.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ch3\u003eAuthor Biography\u003c\/h3\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eJeanne Safer, PhD, \u003c\/b\u003e is a psychotherapist who in her 40 years of private practice has tackled difficult issues that most people deem \"taboo,\" including siblings with difficult or dysfunctional brothers and sisters, women making choices about motherhood, and adults struggling about whether to forgive people who have betrayed them. Dr. Safer is the author of \u003ci\u003eCain's Legacy, \u003c\/i\u003e \u003ci\u003eThe Normal One\u003c\/i\u003e, and \u003ci\u003eDeath Benefits\u003c\/i\u003e.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNumber of Pages:\u003c\/strong\u003e 224\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDimensions:\u003c\/strong\u003e 0.49 x 8.42 x 5.52 IN\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublication Date:\u003c\/strong\u003e September 30, 2003\u003c\/div\u003e","brand":"Books by splitShops","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":51750826541344,"sku":"9780385337564","price":18.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0974\/9764\/5344\/files\/46b16aaae274f8ba5622ce653b28de24.webp?v=1779958700","url":"https:\/\/ebocreations.com\/products\/the-normal-one-life-with-a-difficult-or-damaged-sibling-paperback","provider":"The E-Book Oasis LLC","version":"1.0","type":"link"}